When darkness closes in

Some days I can be surrounded by people yet still experience feelings of loneliness.

If you have never experienced depression in any form then my feelings won’t be familiar to you and all of this may seem a little bizarre.

I’ve struggled with mental health issues for a large majority of my life so one of my biggest concerns when I became pregnant was the high risk of PND. My GP and midwife were well aware of my medical history so knew what to look out for as well as educating me.

For a while there I thought I was fine, that I had somehow managed to sidetrack the issues that for a long time consumed me. I hadn’t. Two weeks passed after Baxter’s  birth and my partner was due back at work, it hit me like a freight train. Feelings of anxiety and worry flooded me.

It took me a while to gain the courage to admit I knew what was going on and go and speak to my GP, deep down I knew the day would come, she was super supportive and we talked through our options.

I started to get control back, things became manageable. But I feel myself slipping again.

These days my PND masks itself in anger, a symptom many are not aware of. Sadly it hinders my relationships with people from time to time and if I am being totally open, my partner takes the brunt of it. People who haven’t experienced it or been close to somebody who has simply don’t understand and often respond with “just stop” or “stop getting so mad”. I would love to be that in control of my feelings but right now, I am not. Half of the time my reactions are so unreasonable but I simply don’t see it at the time. God, I thought I had no patience when I was pregnant but this is next level.

I know that these current feelings are not me, and while I know they’re not permanent, it’s hard to deal with right now. Some days are sunshine & rainbows while others are Nespresso & tissues. I’ve come to the realization that it’s back to the GP I go to revisit my options.

I’m lucky to have such a supportive partner who knows my hormones are up the shit and that when I sass him out, it’s not coming from a bad place.

To those who also suffer from those days where the darkness takes over, I hear you. Whilst you may feel alone, you’re not, it will get easier and good days are on the horizon. Recognizing the signs and talking about it are key steps in helping yourself and allowing others to understand.

Being a mum is tough, so let’s not make it tougher on ourselves. Speak out and support those around you, the smallest of gestures can make a person’s day.

Remember that sometimes the people who appear the happiest may not be and that you never truly know what others are going through.

Being kind of free so dish that shit out.


5 Comments Add yours

  1. Kasey says:

    I can relate to you 100% I’ve had depression alot during pre mum life, but nothing compares to having PND,trying to raise a baby, deal with your life changing completely, and keeping a good relationship with your partner. But you are so right! It does get easier & you learn to cope and get through it. I believe PND should be more talked about.

    Kasey- mother of one-soon to be two

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    1. newmumclub says:

      It’s tough and more people need to understand it’s actually pretty common and it’s okay to open up. Talking about it often makes things a little easier. Exciting times with #2 on the way! 🙂


  2. stacyquizhpilema says:

    This is so beautifully written, and I am so happy that you have the help and support you need. I hope that you will get back to your normal self soon. And just know that it is OK to embrace the sad, the happy, and the angry and anything in between

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    1. newmumclub says:

      Thank you so much. I have an amazing support network and I’ve suffered from mental health issues for a long time now so it’s familiar territory for me.

      Thanks for your lovely comments/support & of course thanks for taking the time to read! X

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