I often get asked why I decided to start this blog so I thought I would do a post to share a little bit about who I am and what prompted me to start writing.
When I was pregnant I started keeping a log each week so I could document the experience and changes, I did this via a private blog, not viewable by anybody else. I decided to share it with a few close friends and work colleagues who really enjoyed it and thought others may also find it useful, if not entertaining. So I published it to the world, with the expectation that nobody would read it. Why on earth would people care are my pregnancy, how shit I felt and how much chocolate I’d eaten?
Here we are now – 30,000+ hits and over 3600 followers on Facebook. Baxter is 9 months old and this wee community has really helped me in my times of need. I’ve received numerous messages from people who have expressed a certain post of mine has really helped them or something I’ve said was exactly what they needed to hear at that moment.
I always like to remind people that I’m just a normal person, I’m no expert and I only know what I know from my own personal experience & perspective. Just because something has worked for me, doesn’t mean it’ll work for you. I’ve always taken the no bullshit approach in life and will say things how they are. There is no point sugar coating things and very rarely will people benefit from it. I wish I had found a blog similar to mine while I was pregnant that really told me just how hard those first few weeks are. They all tell you how you feel this overwhelming sense of love (which you do) but they fail to tell you that your vagina will burn like the fiery pits of hell and you won’t sleep like you used to until the kid has moved out of the home. For some, true realities are too much, but for others, it’s comforting and reassuring that they’re not dealing with these emotions on their own.
My goal is to be real and share MY experience. If I help one person with something I write then it’s all been worth it. On the same note, if you don’t like it – don’t read it.
So, me? I’m 29 (months off 30 – ew), and I live in Wellington with my partner, my cat Tinker and our cute little ginger addition – Baxter. I work full time managing a social media agency, I have been a Photographer for about 10 years and I’m the master of side projects – I always have stuff on the go, like this blog. I’ve cut back a lot since having Baxter because I really do want to embrace this time while he’s little. I’m super lucky to be able to take Baxter into the office with me so he’s with me while I work which is great but it can definitely be difficult at times, I wrote a bit about it in more detail here.
Due to the nature of my job, I am rather active on social media – I need to be. But there is a line you need to draw in the online world so you don’t become too consumed. I only share what I am comfortable with and obviously, I’m okay with sharing quite a bit as I believe honesty is the best policy. My partner and I have had multiple conversations about what we share online in regards to ourselves & Baxter. There are certain things we will not talk about or post. This is a decision only you can make for you and your family. You may not understand others decisions but it’s not your place to pass judgement.
Becoming a mum has been the toughest and most rewarding experience of my life. It’s one that’s very difficult to explain to someone but once you go through it – time stops, life gets all fucked up and you have this beautiful little human that just radiates so much joy and all the bad stuff is totally worth it. It’s an experience that’s not only changed my life, but it’s changed me – for the better. I currently suffer from PND and this is something that took me a while to come to terms with but I am now at a place where it is what it is, I am dealing with it and it’s not running my life.
I am an open book, feel free to ask me anything. People benefit from honesty and talking openly so I would like to think I am providing a safe place to do so.
Before I get too sidetracked, I’ll wrap it up. Thanks so much for following our journey and my blog. We appreciate each and every one of you.